Disappointment – don’t stay too long

Disappointment: is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to regret, it differs in that a person who feels regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the decision-making.- source Wikipedia.
We all feel disappointment at some point in our lives, and because of how our mind is functioning it will keep us as far away as possible from the factors that contributed to our suffering, in the future.
In the aftermath of our disappointing experience, we often feel frustration, anger, denial, shame and even rage- the ’bad’ emotions as people like to call them. The most commonly encountered reaction to that bunch of feelings is Repression. This type of reaction is programmed early on in our developmental stage as humans and makes us feel inappropriate and bad for having a most natural biological reaction to our external and internal environment.
But what they actually do in our bodies, those repressed emotions?
Biologically they impair the well functioning of our cells, as each emotion, we feel at any given time, has a chemical transmitter counterpart ( peptides) that floods a specific communication channel ( brain-body) and gets stuck in its receptor in the cell that fits.
So every time you repress your emotions your cells get overwhelmed with a certain type of transmitter, and that on the long run determines the health and functionality of that specific mechanism. Meaning that if your feel an emotion, but repress the expression of it, the chemical transmitters will be sent and will get attached to the cells, but the cells will not release them, as they do not get the memo that the emotion became redundant, and keep them until further orders.
On the other hand, you can allow yourself to feel your emotions and experience the bodily sensations that come with it. Just to be clear, am not saying to react on the impulse and do irrational things. I say to give yourself space and permission to experience the response of your emotional and physical body to the outside environment, as it is normal and human and quite healthy.
Why is that? It is because the chemical transmitters( that get released anyway when you feel the emotion ’good’ or ’bad’), after interacting with the cells, and after the body acquires equilibrium, will be recycled, allowing the cell to continue business as usual.
That is why a ’good’ emotion it will be experienced for a short while in comparison with a ’bad’ repressed feeling, that we can carry with us for weeks and even months.
Quite a perspective shift, don’t you think?

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